How to rekindle the spark in yor relationships

Focus on the positive.

Remember those fabulous qualities you noticed in your partner when you started dating? Time and stress may have brought their less-favorable traits into sharper focus, But their good qualities are probably still there.
Fixating on the negatives wouldn't have worked in the beginning and it doesn't work now. "In relationship, it's easy to freeze your partner into a fixed perception. Get out of that,"
Make a list of what you fell in love with and another list of good things you've discovered over time. "Publicly brag about those amazing qualities your partner has,"  "Refrain from making him the brunt of a joke. Embrace his positive qualities and let him know you've fully got his back."

Do something crazy (or new).

One study found that partners who read novel and arousing things together felt better about their relationships than those who stuck with routine, mundane activities.
"It's amazing what getting out of your normal routine and pushing your comfort boundaries will do for your love life,"
The trick is to pick something fun and exciting, not just pleasant. Ride a roller coaster. Visit a far-flung destination.
Another option is to get competitive.
"When you're physically competing and experiencing new things together, those dopamine levels soar, which replicates those early butterflies and gets you excited". Try one-on-one activities like tennis, racquetball, skiing, hiking, or fishing.

Touch.

"So many partners hold back kissing,touching, or holding each other until they have time or the desire to have sex" But that's a mistake. Researchers have found that affectionate touch boosts the body's feel-good hormones.

Hug your partner. Hold hands. Be playful with touch.
"Whisper sweet and adoring things into your partner's ear. Brush against him in a sexually seductive way". "Affection is a way to make love all day outside of the bedroom."
Having fun during sex, instead of doing it for obligation's sake, can stoke the fires of your relationship. "Sex is the playground of a marriage"."Fun doesn't have to mean you have to engage in sexual acrobatics; it just means have fun."

Talk.

Do you spend a lot of time trying read your partner’s mind? Limit the guess-work by being open and honest; it can bring you closer. "Ask your partner what he or she needs from you. Take turns. The goal is to show more and see more of each other, rather than defend the status quo". The rewards run deep. Great conversation often leads to more open, loving sex,
Every discussion doesn't have to be serious. Lighthearted laughter goes a long way in lifting your spirits and reconnecting. Have fun. Crack a joke. Revel in the humor of a situation together. "There is nothing sexier than a smile and a happy partner".

Focus on you.

What fuels your passion? Maybe it's having an exciting career or training for a half marathon. No matter -- just get out and do it. When you love yourself and your life, you bring more energy and interest into your relationship.
"Independence and a sense of purpose are sexy". When you take care of your own needs and pursue what you're passionate about, you become less predictable and more interesting to your partner.
It's a win-win situation. You'll be more confident and peaceful as you keep evolving, and your relationship will thrive.

Use your history.

Remember those things you did when you were romancing your new love? Make a list and do them again now,  "It could be as simple as a way you kissed your partner on the cheek or as elaborate as the effort you put into a special date."
Identify your relationship's strengths, then build on them. Know what works well in your relationship and do more of it.
Finally, dreambig. Envision a future together than inspires you. Maybe it's a home bustling with a big family or vacations to new, exotic places. Whatever your dream, you can create a plan now to start making it happen.